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Rama’s Lesson to Jabali: A Story of Faith and Dut

Sage Jabali is visited by God Ram, Sita, and Laxman as they travel to the site of their exile. Jabali was trying to convice Ram to defy his father’s desires and return to Ayodhya.

Curious Jabali earnestly asked, “Rama, you’re a wise man. Why do you choose to obey an unjust order from your father? Why endure hardships in the forest when you are already declared the king of Ayodhya and you can live comfortably in your king palace?”

Jabali continued, explaining his beliefs, “To me, there’s no god, heaven or hell. I don’t see father or mother or brother or wife as bondings, but illusions. The only reality to me is this world – where we’re born and die. We deserve to live a comfortable life for ourselves.”

After listening to Jabali, Ram responded, “Jabali, you’re a smart man, but you’re ruled by your selfish motives and thinking. Your argument dismisses the mysteries of life – of creation and destruction, good and evil – all of which logic cannot comprehend.”

He continued, “Jabali, you speak of attachment to the world full of sorrow and suffering, but fail to see the eternal and blissful part of our existence; our true self that is in unity with God.”

Taking a deep breath, he continued, “Duties, honors and seeking true self are not illusionary bonds for me, they are the essence of life. I will continue to obey my fathers order and fulfill my duty in this forest and preserve peace during my entire exile period.”

Stunned by Ram commitment, Jabali admitted, “I spoke those words to see if you were firm in your beliefs. I am a believer in God, but I pretended to challenge your principles.”

Rama acknowledged his confession calm-heartedly. “Stay true to your beliefs, Jabali. Your words hold immense power and should be used for nobler purposes.”

This conversation between Ram and Jabali always reminds me of the importance of being steadfast in your beliefs and duties, as they not only define your character but also guide you towards the path of righteousness and truth. Misusage of knowledge and reason can lead us astray. It is wisdom that helps us leverage them in the right direction.

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How to Pursue Your Dreams in the Midst of Distractions and Disturbances

Do you dream of a quiet and serene place where you can work on your goals without being distracted or disturbed by anything? Do you think that if you could find the perfect place, you would be able to focus and get things done? If so, you are not alone. Many people long for a place of silence and calm, where they can pursue their dreams without any challenges or obstacles.

But the truth is, there is no such place. Everywhere you go, there are things that will disrupt your focus. Home, office, forest – none of them are free from noise and trouble. No matter where you are, you will face some kind of distraction.

There is a story of a man who learned a secret mantra from a master. He was told that if he chanted it non-stop, he would accomplish his wishes. He tried to do it at home, but he was always disturbed by his family and neighbors. He ran away to the forest, where he found a tree and began his chanting. But soon he was bothered by the birds tweeting, the animals growling, and the droppings hitting his head.

He left the tree and searched for another place. He found an empty field and built a hut there. He thought he had finally found quietness, but then a saint told him that a strong wind could demolish his hut. He was worried about losing his shelter, so he went back to his home and continued his chanting there.

The moral of the story is that you cannot wait for the ideal conditions to follow your dreams. You have to make do with what you have and create your own peace and harmony. Running away is not a solution, but a fantasy that distracts you from your true aim.

How can you create your own peace and harmony in any situation? Here are some tips:

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  • Accept what you cannot change. Some distractions are inevitable and beyond your control. Instead of getting frustrated or angry, accept them as part of life and move on.
  • Focus on what you can control. Some distractions are within your power to reduce or eliminate. For example, you can turn off your phone, close your door, wear headphones, or set boundaries with others.
  • Be mindful of your thoughts and emotions. Some distractions are internal and come from your own mind and heart. For example, you may worry about the future, regret the past, or feel bored or anxious. These can interfere with your concentration and motivation. To overcome them, practice mindfulness techniques such as breathing exercises, meditation, or journaling.
  • Remind yourself of your purpose and goals. Some distractions are external and come from other people or things that tempt you away from your work. For example, you may want to check social media, watch TV, or chat with friends. These can make you lose sight of your priorities and waste your time. To resist them, remind yourself of why you are doing what you are doing and what you hope to achieve.
  • Reward yourself for your progress. Some distractions are positive and come from your own needs and desires. For example, you may need to take a break, have a snack, or do something fun or relaxing. These can help you recharge your energy and creativity. To enjoy them without guilt, reward yourself for your progress and celebrate your achievements.
  • By following these tips, you can create your own peace and harmony in any situation and work on your dreams without distractions or disturbances. You don’t need to search for the perfect place or wait for the perfect time. You can create them wherever you are and whenever you want.

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    Die a hero… so that, people show up on your funeral day

    Remember the times when people asked you, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” You’ve probably given different answers, maybe just to downplay your real aspirations.

    Well, here’s something really important I want to share with you today: Embrace the idea that you never have to completely grow up. Your life isn’t just one chapter; it’s an entire book waiting to be written. Think of yourself as a fresh, empty sheet of paper with the curiosity of a beginner.

    Being that blank sheet of paper lets you explore endless possibilities – drawing, writing poems, sketching, crafting paper boats, and even soaring paper airplanes. Just remember to keep your life free from negativity and mistakes that could sidetrack your journey.

    As you continue penning your life story, consider these steps:

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  • Assess your current situation.
  • Pick areas to focus on and explore your choices.
  • Envision your future self 5 to 10 years down the road, understanding that each step is progress, not a setback.
  • Embrace a heroic mindset that keeps propelling you ahead.
  • Foster a positive outlook where learning, growth, and enjoyment are intertwined.
  • So, let your life unfold like an empty sheet, with each moment adding another stroke to your vibrant narrative. Engage in actions that fill every page of your story with such richness that, when you take your final breath, you’ll read those pages and say, “What an incredible life I’ve had.”

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    Suppress negativity spread goodness

    Guru Nanak arrived at a village where people were a quarrelling with each other. He blessed them and asked them to prosper and live in that village forever. In the next village, people were living with peace, compassion and tranquility.

    Guru Nanak blessed them too and advised them to abandon the village and disperse.

    Mardana, his close disciple got puzzled observing the strange blessings, he asked, “Why did you bless the unworthy people of first village with prosperity, and asked the good people of the second village to disperse.

    Guru Nanak smiled and answered: ‘The quarrelsome will only spread unrest and friction wherever they go. So I asked them to remain where they were. But it is better for the peace-loving to disperse and take their good qualities so that wherever they go people can learn the art of peaceful coexistence.’”

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    Here is how to find yourself when you are feeling lost

    Enlightenment in life comes not by chasing the ultimate consciousness but by living stably in the self. Many in the world are multi-millionaires and billionaires, yet they are poor. When penniless, you crave to have Rs.10. Then you get Rs.10 and feel Rs.10 poor. Somehow you get Rs.100, and then you are Rs.100 poor. You remain poor even after having millions in your bank. The dissimilarities in public life are visible everywhere. People have so much money that they don’t have a place to keep it, and many don’t have a home to live in.

    Everything in your life begins with how you feel. The very secret of enlightenment begins by remembering who you are. If you remember being kind, you will start feeling like a kind. If you think you are a master, you will feel like a master.

    I remember a story narrated by my mother in my childhood. There was a king, and he had a dumb and spoilt son. One day he fired his son because of his misbehaviour and forced him to leave home.
    For ten years, the king’s son lived the life of a homeless beggar in tattered and dirty clothes. He completely forgot that he was ever a prince.

    The ageing king felt for his son and asked his prime minister to search for his son. While on the search duty, the prime minister found the king’s son, bare feet, lacerated with wounds begging for little money outside a hotel. He immediately recognized the king’s son, bowed and said, “The king has pardoned you and asks you to return to your kingdom.” Within no time, the son threw away his begging bowl and became a king. He ordered the prime minister to bring him a pair of good shoes and kingly clothes and arrange his bath immediately. Everyone who humiliated him a while ago gave him started obeying him. A person in the crowd reminded him of what he was a moment ago, “How is it you forget us in a moment?”

    The prince replied, “I remembered you as long as I had forgotten who I was. Just now I have remembered I am prince so, I forget I am a beggar. Now, I remember, I am a king and I have always been a king.”
    You would have heard about fake it till you made it. It applies here — If you continue to remember who you are, there is no need for any practice or reminder for any external forces to remind you of who you are. If you have forgotten your real self, remember who you are and see yourself transforming.

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    How to create peace and harmony

    You’ve been complaining about the distractions and disturbances in your everyday life for a long while. You feel that distractions are the enemy of your accomplishments. Finding a place where you can get things done with focus is hard to find.

    I can tell you there is no such place. Whether you go to the office, stay home, or run away to the forest, you’d face some kind of distractions everywhere.
    I know a story: A man approached the master and pleaded for the secret mantra to help him fulfil his wishes. Master gave him the mantra and warned him to chant the mantra only at a place of absolute peace.

    He started chanting at his home, but due to continuous disturbances, he could not continue it. He moved to the forest, sat beneath the tree and began his chanting. The birds started chirping, the animals were hounding, and the birds were dropping their shit on him from the top. Embarrassed by it, he moved to find another place. He found an empty field and decided to build a hut there for peaceful chanting. A saint approached him and warned him that the high wind might blow away his hutment. Scared of the high wind, he decided to return to his home and practice there itself.

    If you truly want things to get done, you have to do it in your settings and situations. Stop wasting your time in search of a perfect place. There isn’t one. To live a peaceful life, you must create a peaceful and harmonious surrounding wherever you are now. Fleeing away is not a solution, but it’s a delusion that wanders in your mind.

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    Do not choose

    We all crave the joy of heaven. It is because the sufferings and misery inside hell are painted in our minds so deeply that we don’t want to live there.

    Like our desire to become rich stems from the misery we know poor people suffer. You ask any rich person whether they enjoy being wealthy, and you will hear NO.

    The virtuous good people feel they deserve special treatment because they condemn the sinners, not because of the good itself.

    What if you find a man who says nothing is like this in hell, or he says that hell is better and more luxurious than hell?

    What if you know the darker side of having luxury items, mansions and cool cars?

    What if you face people considering you weak, you attract the wrong type of people, and people distrust you despite you being good to everyone?

    Most of our acts are polarized against the good and the bad. Non-violence depends on violence, and light owes its existence to the darkness, and good grows in the soil of bad.

    Krishna says to Arjuna – “The world is unity of opposites. Accept both the polarities, because both are there together. Go with them, because they are. Don’t choose!” Krishna advises pursuing choicelessness. Those who choose a part and deny another are bound to be in tension because despite denying it, the other part will always continue to be. And the irony is that the part we choose depends on its existence in the part we deny.

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    You have made my day

    “You have made my day” is a powerful compliment to give and receive. It tempts the feeling of kindness, humanity and realization that your act has made a significant difference in someone’s life. A genuine act of kindness can move the mountain, melt the iron and bring forward the irony of your humanity. I advise you to begin developing the habits of the following:

    • Being right is okay but only if it does not erode your being kind.
    • Choose your words wisely before speaking to provide listening pleasure.
    • You must gauge your level of effectiveness by the glow and smile your words have generated on a listener’s face.
    • Everyday, offer the prayer to the almighty to help those who need blessings to come out of the tough times and uneven terrain.
    • Don’t be serious. Each one of us needs a friend with whom you can act goofy.

    From time to time, throw out your caring and compassionate best to make someone’s day. You will become happier, more acceptable, more delightful and more generous.

    So, for whom will you make the day happy today?

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    Do you have these 3 bank accounts

    TIME BANK
    Your life is fixed between your birth date and death date. Organise and prioritise your time for those high-fulfilling activities that will move you forward in your personal, family and professional life.

    RELATIONSHIP BANK
    People come into your life for a reason, season or a lifetime. Whenever people come into your life, analyse them, accept them and treasure them for however long they were meant to be part of your life.

    FINANCE BANK
    It’s not how much you earn but how much you keep. The best way to gain financial security is to constantly grow your income and develop the habit of saving for rainy days.

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    Small steps cause a significant impact

    Small steps cause a significant impact

    A jet plane with 257 passengers onboard departed from New Zealand airport to experience Antarctica and back. A ground handling staff from the air traffic control department altered the flight coordinates by 2 degrees, putting the aircraft 28 miles east from where they were supposed to be. Sadly that alteration put them directly on the top of Mount Erebus, an active volcano.

    Despite turbulence and other conditions keeping aeroplanes off-course 90% of flight time, most flights arrive at the correct destination at the intended time. The snow on the volcano blended with the clouds above, deceiving the pilots into thinking they were flying above flat ground. When the instruments sounded a warning of the quickly rising ground, it was too late. The plane crashed into the volcano, and everyone onboard died.

    The reason for the accident was the pilot’s dependency on air traffic control for constantly course correcting their movement. Course correction includes notification and pathway correction to help the pilot stay on course and reach the destination.

    This flight analogy is so much contextually relevant to our lives. Even seemingly inconsequential aspects of our lives can create ripples and waves of consequence — for better or worse.

    I have some homework for you — Citing this lesson, how do you notify and course correct if you are flying the aircraft called your life:

    • How are you piloting your life and checking whether you are on the right course?
    • What feedback are you receiving to correct your course?
    • Do you have a guidance system? How often do you check your guidance system?
    • Where is your destination?
    • When are you going to get there?
    • Are you on-course or off-course?
    • How would you know if you are on the right course?
    • How do you minimize the turbulence and other conditions distracting your path?

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    Go where you are rare

    Success is at the right place at the right time. Once upon a time, I refused a lucrative offer to join a leading IT company in Mumbai, citing “I won’t shift to Mumbai.” I was well settled in Vadodara when I got an offer to join Sony Music in Mumbai. I asked a close friend for advice, and he said, “Ishwar, you should go there as you will get a better opportunity to grow yourself.”

    If I’d have refused the opportunity, Sony Music wouldn’t have happened. The opportunity to write 100s of articles won’t have happened. Joining the league of youngest CEO of Digital at Zee won’t have happened. Travelling around the globe won’t have happened. Speaking, mentoring and guiding 100s of entrepreneurs won’t have happened. And meeting 1000s beautiful people won’t have happened.

    “Go where you are rare.” is a great sentence—being rare positions you as extraordinarily unique. It brings power to you. Things work differently. That ‘rare’ position allows you to discover, justify, explain, convince, and win over hundreds of people aiming to grab the spot you are enjoying. You’re in the spotlight.

    If you have spotted that ‘rare’ position, the only word of precaution is don’t sit on it having full reliance on your talent alone to draw extraordinary results. Push your limits, empathy and desire to serve the cause. Keep honouring the purpose of you in that ‘rare’ person, and do more things to serve the people around you.

    Impatience in your heart brings you alive
    dreams in your eyes make you alive
    Live like the free waves of wind
    Learn to flow like the waves floating over the sea
    Receive every moment in life with open arms
    Every moment is a new beginning
    surprise in your eyes keeps you alive
    impatience in your heart keeps you alive

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    A true friendship

    God Krishna Says,
    “I am a friend of one and all. It is up to you whether you consider me as your father, mother, master, associate or friend.

    For me, friendship comes first. I enjoyed my childhood with the cowherds of Vrindavan. I played with them like an ordinary boy. I went on to steal the butter from the house of the herdsmen.

    I killed the Kaliya snake who was poisoning the Yamuna water and making the water undrinkable for cows and cowherds.

    You would have read about my friendship with Sudama. He was my best friend. When Sudama arrived at my home, I could not control myself even for a moment. I ran barefoot to hug him. I treated him better than myself showering my complete compassion and equanimity.

    During the war of Mahabharata, I was drawn to a peculiar situation. Kauravas’s blamed me for playing one-sided. I proposed they visit my place and whomsoever I see first when I will join whom I see first when I wake up in the morning.

    You know that Duryodhan came first and sat on my head, assuming I would first look at him. Arjuna knew I would see one seated on my feet first. Arjuna was my ardent devotee. For him, I was the ultimate master ruler of his life.

    You know that Draupadi used to call me “Sakha”, and I used to call her “Sakhi”. I always came to her rescue as she treated me as her ultimate friend, and I always protected her whenever she remembered me for help.

    I live in the heart of everyone in the form of consciousness. Some people forget me, and some constantly keep me in their thoughts and hearts. I have guaranteed the rescue to all those who remember me for help. Even though you think of your individuality, you are never separate from me. You can only conquer me through love, and your love alone binds me to you. I am gladly conquered by those who have indomitable faith in me.”

    Best friends forever
    Whether its thick or thin
    Hold the hand and walk together
    Keeps the secret, holds the baton
    Holds friendship above the prayer
    Makes every life moment merrier
    No conditions no infatuation
    Just made to love without discrimination
    Counsels you when you are wrong
    Comforts you when you are down
    Supports you when you’re about to fall

    Dedicated to all my friends, who’s made me more wiser, better and merrier…

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    Live like a hero Die as a hero does

    My two friends and I had dinner together. One of my friends asked: “So what do you think would happen on your death day?”

    It was tough to answer.

    Another friend replied: “Ishwar cannot give you the answer. If you permit, can I?”
    “Sure.”
    “The day you die, your bank account will be jammed with millions in your bank. The day Ishwar will die, certainly traffic will be jammed in the area.”

    I know I am not so kind and generous that my death day would turn out like that. But, I could sense the motive of my friend behind why he said it.

    If you look back at your early childhood and remind yourself to ask the question: “What do I want to be when I grow up?”
    You’d have answered many things under the pretext that you’d not show that you are not here for a small bet.
    Bring yourself back to the present, and you would say: “I wish, I Never grow up. Period.”
    If you think that way, it’s because your life is not one chapter. To complete your life book, you will have to write many chapters. You would feel like being a blank piece of paper and always have a beginner’s mind.
    Imagine yourself as a blank piece of paper. You can do many things – you can draw, write poetry, sketch a picture, make a paper boat, fly a paper plane, etc. etc.
    And while you are on your flow to write your living story; from time to time:
    – Assess your life to find out where you are.
    – Decide what area to take action on and start gathering options.
    – Keep prototyping your future self 5 – 10 years from now. Remember that there’s no failure, just continuous progress towards your destination.
    – Choose to think and live in ways that focus on living your life as a hero does.
    – Maintain a mindset of joyous life in which you learn, grow and have fun.
    Live like a hero. Die as a hero does.

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    Being Meaningful

    Your biggest goal is to live every moment of life feeling accomplished. You may call it differently – wealth, freedom, success, etc. You aim to earn money, time, relationship, spirituality and ability to pursue your geniuses. Your life is an adventure to do something every day which can get you closer to one of these things your heart desire.

    I remember during the induction program of my first job the employer asked,”What do you think why you are hired for?” Everyone replied claiming their education, intelligence, excellence in specific skills, etc. The employer replied, “You are not hired for any of these, but our company has specific problems and we believe you are well-equipped with the skills, abilities, and interest to solve problems better than many others whom we interviewed for the job.”

    This one statement makes it clear to me that to be relevant in any workplace, you need to understand market reality, you need to develop skills that reflect your abilities to deliver substantial value, and knowing the exact system through which you can apply your learning in the real world environment to achieve your life goals.

    Know Yourself

    Are you happy with whatever you have got in your life? Do you feel accomplished? Are you creating the income, impact, and success you deserve? If not, it is because you have not aligned your interests, skills, and abilities to strive to realize your potential and achieve greatness. You need to analyze and self-reflect to know your true potential and be aware mentally, physically and emotionally to achieve your greatness.

    Use the attached template to know your dreams and what you need in order to leverage your geniuses. Instead of settling for a life of mediocrity, take your first step today to craft a life of limitless abundance.

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    Maybe this isn’t for me

    When did you last watch a toddler’s first attempt to walk? I did it a few days ago. What I observed was that when the child was learning how to walk and fell several times, he never thought to himself, “Maybe this isn’t for me.” He kept trying and the beautiful thing was that the people around were encouraging and appreciating the child for his efforts and didn’t point their finger at him for the fall.

    As an inventor, Edison made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb. When a reporter asked, “How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?” Edison replied, “I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The lightbulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.”

    I find social validation the greatest enemy. You look for someone else to validate who you are by seeking their approval and setting up yourself for disaster. You’re born a whole and complete man. It cannot come from someone else. You have to know who you are. You have to keep constantly trying like Edison without being worried about the fall much.

    The only thing you have is that nobody else has control of your life, your job, your day, your heart, or your spirit. You are the only one in control of all of that. You have to love your journey without being too much worried about the destination.

    Life is not a dress rehearsal. Today is the only guarantee you get.

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