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5 Skills to Take Your Life and Business to the Next Level

Are you hitting the ceiling?

Hitting the ceiling means feeling stuck, frustrated, and living every day like there is not enough time.

Try developing these five skills to break through the ceiling and see yourself advance to the next level.

  1. SIMPLIFY – eliminate complexity and reducing everything to the essential.
  2. DELEGATE – free and elevate yourself to do what you are best at and then delegate others to the next best person you know.
  3. PREDICT – choose your path after evaluating the long-term and short-term goals.
  4. SYSTEMIZE – document and follow the process and procedure that will help you achieve your goals.
  5. STRUCTURE – define and organize your team and resources to reduce complexity, improve clarity, communication, and accountability.

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What would your museum say

You must have visited a museum at some or other time. A museum is an organized collection of things someone did over time and then collected the stories and artifacts for you to see. Every time I went inside a museum, it has inspired my interest in an area of study, item, time, period, or idea.

During one of my visits to the museum in Patna, I became so inspired that I decided to write an article about getting a job as museum staff. It turned out to be my first published article in Hindustan Times way back in the year 1990.

Since then, I have been questioning myself repeatedly — what would be in a museum of mine? What moments, experiences, ideas, stories, and artifacts would someone collect and assemble into the museum of my life? What would the museum say about me? What would my life stand for? Would the excellence supersede so large and unique that I would have a museum dedicated to me?

I have pursued the same notion in the works I do in my life and my business. Whenever I conduct a workshop, consult with a client, build a product or write an article, I ask, “What would make my work collectible?”

“What would your museum say?” is a powerful way to set your vision, mission, purpose and value. You can set clear values that show what behaviors, traits, and habits are most important to you and how you would like to measure your successes? Do you clearly understand your purpose by what you see on display? Would you see things you have done that reveal some area of mastery?

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A tale: God is within us

In the ancient Indian kingdom lived a highly respected sage. The Sage was wise, fearless, knowledgeable, gentle, and endowed with divine nature.

Jealous of his popularity and unfathomable spiritual philosophy, the King sent him a notice to appear in his senate.

The Sage obliged the King’s order. The King said: “You are considered wise and spiritual. You must be knowing all things about God. I have three questions for you. If you don’t provide me with the satisfactory answer to these questions, you will get beheaded on the thirtieth day from today.”

“Here are my questions,” continued the King,
“Where is God?”
“How can I see him?”
“What does he do all the time?”

The Sage was shocked hearing the questions asked by the King. Under stress, he was sleepless, fearful, and feeling helpless. He was unable to answer questions in a way that satisfies the King.

Time passed, but he could not get the answers. On the appointed date, the guards of King took the Sage in custody. The guards brought him to the senate of King for punishment order.

The Sage had a teenage son. Knowing that his father will be ordered punishment, he ran to the palace and put a request to allow him to appear in the senate.

He requested: “Dear King, May I have your permission to answer questions on and behalf of my father with the condition that you’ll release my father if my answers satisfy you?”

He got permission.

The Boy requested a gallon of milk. The King ordered his courtier to bring milk to the senate. Seeing the milk boy said: “May I also request you to order your courtiers to churn the milk into butter?”

The courtiers followed the King’s order to churn the milk into butter.

“Your honor, your first two questions are answered.”

The King objected: “You didn’t answer anything. None of us hear it.”

The son of Sage asked: “Where was the butter before it got churned?”

The King: ” It was present in the milk.”

The Boy: “In what part of the milk?”

The King: “In all of it.”
“As the butter is in all of the milk, God is present in all of us whether dead or alive.”

King asked: “Then, why don’t I see him?”

“You won’t see him until you churn your mind and body through the practices of devotion and meditation.”
He continued: “You have to chant his name, meditate upon him, serve his lotus feet, worship him as per scriptures, prostrate before him, serve him and befriend him. Release my father now.”

“Wait,” the King ordered. “You have not answered my third question yet. What God does all the time?”

The Boy smiled. “To answer the third question, we have to change our places.”

The King vacated his seat to move to the place where Boy was standing. The Boy occupied the throne. Courtiers were amused.

“God at all times lift those who comply with the holy living principles and bring down those who indulge in wrongdoings. He is the source of creation of all beings, he is our supreme savior, and he is responsible for restoring righteousness.”

The King ordered the respectful release of Sage and offered state honor to the young Boy.

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5 Traits That Make You Wildly Hirable

Ideally if you are great at job, you’d be getting a few calls from the recruitment agencies, your previous employers, your ex-bosses or professional references asking you about:
Can I take you for a coffee to discuss an opportunity?
How is the job?
Are you still happy with what you do?
Are you making money?
Did they change the compensation plan on you?
You’ll never believe how good things are going over here.
You have an open invitation to be on my team.

If it’s not happening with you, you may be lacking in these 5 key traits that make you wildly hireable — check it out.

  1. Are you Coachable
    You can absorb new learnings and apply it wherever necessary and applicable.

  2. Are you Curious?
    Your ability to develop understanding through effective questioning and learning.

  3. Do you have prior successes to show?
    Not only the job specific but you championed a college event, played cricket or got recognised for social work.

  4. Are you Intelligent?
    Having the ability to learn complex subject quickly and you are able to explain learned concepts in an easy to understand manner.

  5. What’s your work rules?
    How do you align your personal mission to the company mission with high degree of energy, capacity and leadership.

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Here is the secret to remain forever employable

When I was in my early 20s, I was excited to break into my career that allow me to leverage my skills, interests and market realities.
When I turned 30s, I was paranoid about gaining the seniority, security, salary, and fulfilment.
When I entered into 40s, I am concerned about sustenance, stability, and belongingness.

Through all these career transitions, I can assure you that instead of being excited, paranoid and concerned, I need to ensure that my efforts, career paths, and viability as valuable person of organisation, society, communities and continued disciplines can only make me forever employable.

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Why Anger is More Torrent Than Fire and How to Deal With It

This blog is based on Bhagavad Gita Chapter 2 verse 62, Chapter 2 verse 63, Chapter 5 verse 26, Chapter 16 verse 1 – 3, and Chapter 16 verse 21.

Anger, lust, and greed together has created the mess around us. There are more than 4.4 crore pending cases in the court. Wealth inequality is at an all-time high. The incidences of social injustice, crime, hate, corruption, poverty, etc. are prevailing everywhere.

It seems like life is a mess, and no one knows how to take control of it. In this article, I have tried to look into the root cause through the teachings of Bhagavad Gita.

Our body composes of six sensory organs:

Eye to see the material objects.
Ear to hear the sound.
Nose to smell the odor.
Tongue to taste.
Body to feel the touch.
Mind to ponder on mental objects.

They are always in the receptive mode — without anyone directing them to do their respective job, they continuously do their assigned duty.

All of these sensory organs keep sending their observations as well as desires to the mind which causes our mind to dwell on material objects. Eyes dwell for seeing beautiful and pleasing things and people around, ear dwells to hear the pleasing sound, the nose wants to smell fragrances, tongue craves for tasty foods, the body wants caring touches and surrounded by the demands of the body organs it is busy thinking about the way to fulfill the desire of all organs.

Shri Krishna explains the cause and effects of our dwelling on the material object succinctly in the Bhagavad Gita Chapter 2 verse 62 and verse 63.

“The person who dwells on the material objects, there arises attachment for them.
Attachment grows hankering.
Hankering springs anger.
From anger arises the delusion.
Delusion causes the bewilderment of memory.
When memory catches the bewilderment intelligence is lost.
When intelligence is lost one further falls down to the greedy material desire.
Chained in the web of material desire the life is lost, the purpose of life is lost and instead of living a happy, healthy, peaceful and joyous life; you end up living sad, mad, stressed and confused.

I want to tell you the story I heard during my childhood.

A man was on tour to see the serene and pilgrimage across the country. The man felt tired and started looking around for a place where he can take rest. He spotted a large tree surrounded by a celestial atmosphere. He decided to rest beneath the tree.

After a while, he felt hungry. He thought what if he is served with delicious food right now. Within a moment delicious full-course meal was present in front of him. He ate the meal.
After eating the meal, he felt the need to sleep well. He murmured “What if there is an arrangement for bed is made for him to sleep.”

A cushioned bed appeared at an instant. He slept on the bed.

After a while, his sleep was disturbed due to cold weather and he felt for a quilt which was also presented to him immediately.

Presented with all the things he wished immediately, he started doubting about it. He thought there may be some demon that would be presenting it all in front of him having the motive to kill him. He got plagued by doubts, fear and suspicion.

He wished “What if demon comes and kills him?” Immediately a demon came and he got killed.

This is what happens to the people. You are born for a purpose, but you get caught in the delusion losing your pearl for a penny.

Habits of People Who doesn’t catch anger and deluded

Let me tell you that you cannot get rid of your anger. However, you can certainly manage it and control it. Here are a few tips for you:

Know your ultimate life goal
Stop living a purposeless life. Sooner than later, realize what life wants from you; You would be much better if you live a life true to yourself.
Always live a balanced life — A balanced life is one where your every day is a mix of doing things for the head (knowledge acquisition), the heart (compassionate to one and all), and the hunger (eating healthy foods).
Shri Krishna says “It is better to live your own destiny imperfectly than to live an imitation of somebody else’s life with perfection.”
Your life is made of your own destiny, habits, interests, thoughts, perspectives and life situations. Instead of creating stress and dissatisfaction looking outwardly, it is better to accept wherever you are and whatever you have got.

Relax your body and calm mind with yoga and meditation

Deep breathing and relaxing techniques as prescribed in yoga and meditation, can help calm down angry feelings. Bhagavad Gita has a chapter to teach you about the meditation techniques as well as there are several resources like videos, audio, articles and discourses to teach meditation and yoga to you. Once you learn the techniques and practice it regularly, you can call upon them in any situation. Some simple steps you can try:

Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm; breathing from your chest won’t relax you.
Focus your attention on your forehead above the nostril and place between the eyebrows.
Chant OM or just repeat the phrase like “relax”, “take it easy”. Keep it repeating while breathing deeply.

Some yoga exercises can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer. Regular practice of these techniques will keep your mind calm to improve your anger management capabilities.

Identify triggers that makes you angry

If you are getting angry way too frequently due to quarrels, bad relationships, bad work-life imbalances, etc. you need to understand the exact triggers of your anger. Once you know the trigger, you need to take actions that will get you out of the rut.

Step away or postpone the things

When you face an uneven situation, it instantly fuels your anger. If you know that some conversation is going to explode your anger, it is better to pre-plan your strategies to tackle it. If you are not getting the right strategy, it is better to postpone it or stay away from it for a while.

Sometimes it helps to set a specific time and place when you can discuss the issue again. Tell people that the issue will indeed be discussed—just at a later time.
By now, you know that anger is the root cause of most evils. If you can realize, relax and practice anger control techniques, you can use your learning to benefit in handling life conditions better.

In the Bhagavad Gita Chapter 2 verse 56 Shri Krishna says:

“That monk is called a man of steady wisdom whose mind is unperturbed by sorrow, he is free from longing for delights, and has gone beyond attachment, fear, and anger.”

BE THAT MONK.

References:
दुःखेष्वनुद्विग्नमनाः सुखेषु विगतस्पृहः।
वीतरागभयक्रोधः स्थितधीर्मुनिरुच्यते।।2.56।।

ध्यायतो विषयान्पुंसः सङ्गस्तेषूपजायते।
सङ्गात् संजायते कामः कामात्क्रोधोऽभिजायते।।2.62।
क्रोधाद्भवति संमोहः संमोहात्स्मृतिविभ्रमः।
स्मृतिभ्रंशाद् बुद्धिनाशो बुद्धिनाशात्प्रणश्यति।।2.63।।

2.62-2.63 In the case of a person who dwells on objects, there arises attachment for them. From attachment grows hankering, from hankering springs anger.

While contemplating the objects of the senses, a person develops attachment for them, and from such attachment, lust develops, and from lust, anger arises.

From anger, delusion arises, and from delusion bewilderment of memory. When memory is bewildered, intelligence is lost, and when intelligence is lost, one falls down again into the material pool.

5.26
कामक्रोधवियुक्तानां यतीनां यतचेतसाम्।
अभितो ब्रह्मनिर्वाणं वर्तते विदितात्मनाम्।।5.26।।

Those who are free from anger and all material desires, who are self-realized, self-disciplined and constantly endeavoring for perfection, are assured of liberation in the Supreme in the very near future.

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    अभयं सत्त्वसंशुद्धिर्ज्ञानयोगव्यवस्थिति: |
    दानं दमश्च यज्ञश्च स्वाध्यायस्तप आर्जवम् || 1||
    अहिंसा सत्यमक्रोधस्त्याग: शान्तिरपैशुनम् |
    दया भूतेष्वलोलुप्त्वं मार्दवं ह्रीरचापलम् || 2||
    तेज: क्षमा धृति: शौचमद्रोहोनातिमानिता |
    भवन्ति सम्पदं दैवीमभिजातस्य भारत || 3||

The Blessed Lord said: Fearlessness, purification of one’s existence, cultivation of spiritual knowledge, charity, self-control, the performance of sacrifice, the study of the Vedas, austerity and simplicity; nonviolence, truthfulness, freedom from anger; renunciation, tranquility, aversion to faultfinding, compassion and freedom from covetousness; gentleness, modesty and steady determination; vigor, forgiveness, fortitude, cleanliness, freedom from envy and the passion for honor-these transcendental qualities, O son of Bharata, belong to godly men endowed with divine nature.

16.21
त्रिविधं नरकस्येदं द्वारं नाशनमात्मन: |
काम: क्रोधस्तथा लोभस्तस्मादेतत्त्रयं त्यजेत् || 21||

There are three gates leading to this hell-lust, anger, and greed. Every sane man should give these up, for they lead to the degradation of the soul.

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Three Ways to Experience God Based on What You Prefer the Most

Do you think you don’t know how to pray? Here are three ways you can pray to God.

The First is your body; your body is not yours but of God.

Live in the best spiritual and physical condition, eating healthy foods, getting enough sleep to wake up every morning to serve God, and emotional balance to tune up your body to serve God.

A healthy body is the adobe of a healthy soul. When you carry a healthy soul, you attract courage, gallantry, stability, stubbornness, peace, tranquility, high morals, and spirituality.

The Second is your heart; regular prayer with chants and mantras to keep remembering the almighty God.

Whether your motive is to fulfill material desire, liberation, power, holistic evolution, eradication of sufferings, or spiritual progress — you will be gifted with a beautiful heart that touches others.

Chant joyfully calling his name, feeling his presence in everything and every being.
Sing his song praising his kindness and his services, providing us with the essentials of living.
Look at his idol, praising him and thanking him and blessing him to instill goodness, steadfastness, and love forever.

The Third is your soul; continuous meditation, study, and reflection of God’s supreme existence.

If you are oriented more towards meditation than money, if love is more important than the logic to you, if you think the soul is more important than mind and body, power over yourself is more important than power over others — then meditate.

You will not only be able to get rid of anxiety, depression, fear and mental imbalances, but practicing meditation, you will attain self-realization or illumination.

In my view ShriKrishna has explained the most accurate way to meditate in Bhagavad Gita which I have written here How to meditate according to Bhagavad Gita

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What do you want from life vs. what life wants from you?

Do you struggle to find the answer to:
“What do I want from life?”
“What should I do to feel the victim of circumstances?”
If you feel demotivated, unsure, aimless, can’t find any work that makes you lose yourself, you’re not alone — most people are in the same boat.

The Hindu value system suggested us an appropriate system to better plan and organise our life based on the life stages. Childhood for study, character-building and living with full celibacy. Adulthood for earning livelihood to earn and maintain family well-being. The sunset years to manage, monitor and mentor children imparting them teaching and guidance to become to acquire knowledge and skills.

Nowadays, people prefer to live in a nuclear family to enjoy the freedom and joint family obligations. “Family first.” is replaced with “Me first.” A while ago, one of my professional acquaintance said, “After years of struggle wh your material desire gets fulfilled, you look back only to discover that you have lost a precious life and time for the fulfillment of your meaningless cravings. You have messed up family values, alienated social fabric, and your self-centered nature starts making you feel more like a curse.”

Knowing why is an essential first step in figuring out how to achieve the goals that excite you and create a life you enjoy living instead of surviving every day. “Why” is not about what you want for yourself but, its purpose is to know the ultimate goals that will wake you every morning. I ask my audiences to invoke their imagination during my workshops by asking, “If you have to write your autobiography today, what is your story?” This thinking alone will get you the motivation needed to rethinking the possibilities to move to a more purpose-driven life.

Begin by writing a few things that you want to make it happen and then actually do it. You will observe that when a clear purpose powers you, there is little you cannot do.

Question I want to leave you with today — What is the thing that helped you to get the best out of you? What helped you discover your true purpose?

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My experience with God’s promise fulfillment “I carry what they lack and preserve what they have”

अनन्याश्चिन्तयन्तो मां ये जना: पर्युपासते |
तेषां नित्याभियुक्तानां योगक्षेमं वहाम्यहम् || 22||

“One who always think of Me and engage in devotion to Me and whose minds are always absorbed in Me, I provide what they lack and preserve what they already possess.”
Early this week, I and my wife was traveling from Delhi to Mumbai by Rajdhani Express. I slept keeping my mobile and wallet in my trouser’s pocket.

Around 3:30 am when I woke up, I couldn’t find my wallet and mobile in my pocket. I immediately searched for it. The wallet was on the seat but the mobile wasn’t there. I searched everywhere but couldn’t find it.

After a while, I woke up my wife and informed her that my mobile is missing from my pocket. She got worried. She too started searching for it but we couldn’t find it. We dialed the number and it was ringing. However, no one was picking up the phone. My wife was extremely worried as it had important numbers, banking app, etc.

I asked her to go and sleep. I was pretty sure that it has been picked up by someone and there is no chance to get it back. I too went to sleep.
We woke up at around 6:30 am. We again dialled the number but no one was picking up the phone.

My wife advised me to ask the staffs of the train compartment. I called them and asked if they have seen my phone. They said no.

While we were talking about it with fellow passengers, another passenger approached us from the nearby seat. He said, “A Sardar Ji sitting closer to the door found a phone in the night. He asked me to direct the phone owner to him if anyone asks for it.

I immediately rushed to him. He immediately handed over the phone to him. He said, “I was keeping the phone on my seat itself so that if someone calls, I can hand it over to the owner.
Because the phone was in silent mode, he couldn’t hear or see our constant calling.

We thanked him, the God and everyone else who’ve put their efforts in helping me locate the phone.

While getting down from the train, I remembered God’s promise, “Drop everything and surrender unto me. I will take care of what you lack and preserve what you have.”

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